“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you – all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and becoming who you are.”-Rachel Naomi Remen
Have you ever been consciously aware that you are experiencing a moment of duality? I did earlier this week. It was during a conversation with someone who was just starting a journey that I’ve completed (in most respects). I had walked his path and realized that I was now being given the chance to serve as guide (and to learn even more about independence and autonomy through teaching it).
I want to keep this relatively brief, because I’m actually afraid of getting too wordy and losing the impact of our conversation. That said, the gist of our talk was that this person wanted OUT. He had applied a geographical solution to his problem by moving away from the town in which he grew up in order to live his life without the baggage that accompanied the expectations others had of him.
There are those who say this “solution” may be running away, and in some cases, I would agree. “No matter where you run to, there you are.” I get it. That said, the nation’s urban centers are teeming with people who left behind the perceptions, conceptions and limitations of the towns in which they grew up in return for a fresh start. To upend the theme song of the sitcom Cheers, “Sometimes you wanna go where NOBODY knows your name.”
People assign you with a label because it makes life easier for them. “Naming” you helps them to frame their own place in life. Categorizing people as one dimensional, reducing them to one adjective (stupid, smart, lazy, ambitious, crazy, level-headed, clumsy, athletic et al) is inaccurate at best and carries a great potential for harm at worst. What’s doubly frustrating is when others label you based upon the behavior of others (ie. your family).
“Anyone can cut an apple open and count the number of seeds. But, who can look at a single seed and count the trees and apples?”-Dottie Walters
This was the case with my friend earlier this week. I could see the pain written in his face and see the energy straining to express itself as we talked. He wanted more. He knew that he had the ability to achieve great things. He was more than the sum of his parts and was willing to do the work in order to develop his own talents.
How much greatness lies dormant in us all?
Our obligation to each other is to recognize, nurture and develop the divine within each other. This precept forms the cornerstone of my work through Women With Drive Foundation. Each of us has the capacity to reach out and help another evolve into the highest expression of our natures. Our environments have the potential to nurture our development or to squelch it.
That said, YOU are the force which determines your life’s trajectory.
Your job is to recognize and believe that you are worthy of great things. You are not Your Family. You are not Your Past. Your choices are your own. You are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to.
I believe in you.
Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Through this action, the individual applicant benefits, as does society as a whole. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive Foundation) or “Like” us on facebook.