How to climb out of a hole

by Molly Cantrell-Kraig on February 15, 2012

EDIT NOTE: Today’s post appears courtesy of Guest Blogger April Lynne Scott. Her story of overcoming her own barriers inspires us to consider where we are, where we want to be and how we are going to get there. Our thanks to her for sharing her experience!

Climbing out of a hole

I was in a rut – a life rut. I had been stuck so long I probably wouldn’t even call it a rut. It was a hole. Digging a hole of doubt and uncertainty left me in too deep to do things any differently than I had done before. It seemed safer just to stay in the hole.

Stuck? You are always able to change the road you're on.

My eyes had slowly been opened, but I wasn’t ready to take action. There was something comfortable about that hole. I knew I had absolutely no desire for the path I was on, but I needed a wake-up call… and I got one.

It had all the makings of a great Hollywood drama: Professional ethics, betrayal, an attractive leading man, conflict, an evil villain… Getting out of that rut took guts, determination, and more strength than I knew I had.

My heart was challenged and divided in ways I cannot even express in words. I felt simultaneous pain and relief. There were a lot of people who didn’t support me – people who didn’t believe me or believe in me. I stood to lose someone I truly loved, but in the end I was really the one the blame.

I had allowed this.

I could have embraced my passion and gotten out of that rut at any time, but I was comfortable there. It was easy. It seemed safe. And, I had been convincing myself for years that it was good enough. But I knew it wasn’t for me.

There’s enough blame to go around. I played my part too. But, there’s no use in holding on to any guilt I feel. That guilt will not change the events or the emotion. There’s no reason not to forgive myself and others for actions, missteps, and misunderstandings. It is time to let it go.

My biggest mistake was denying myself a full life of purpose in exchange for status quo.

I had to make this change.

I am breaking from what is expected.

I’m going out on a limb.

I am realizing dreams and embracing life – the life that was meant for me.

I am learning, growing, forgiving, expanding, creating and doing.

No regrets.

This is where I’m supposed to be.


Originally from New Orleans, Louisiana, April has more than 20 years’ experience in Public Relations (PR). She has spent the past decade devoted to integrating public relations with social, digital, and new medias. She is a writer, speaker, and consultant who works with some of her favorite entertainers and brands as a social media, public relations, and digital communications professional.  But her biggest inspiration (and what she is most passionate about) is helping others live life “on purpose” and without fear of excelling to the edges of their passion. Connect with her on her website or her professional blog where she muses about the future of PR in the digital landscape. If you’re looking for something a little less about business and a little more authentic visit her The Art of Failure Blog. You may find her on Twitter as @AprilLynneScott, LinkedIn, PinterestGoogle Plus (G+), or About Me.

If you would like to be a contributing guest blogger, please send three examples of your published work and a biographical paragraph to us via the “Contact Us” tab on our site. Thank you for your interest in becoming a voice in our community to support women!

Leave a Comment

Previous post:

Next post: